Monday, May 19, 2014

Guest blogger Sarah on retirement

Illness forced Sarah to retire; so she's reevaluating her life.
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It's an interesting thing to retire. We all dream of it, we work for it we know that someday we will enter into that time frame of our lives when everything is supposed to be amazing. Kind of like the ultimate carrot at the end of the stick idea. However, some of us (like me) arrive at that point unexpectedly and find that we don't know how to respond to questions from loving, caring friends about, "How are you adjusting to retirement?" In the interest of reminding myself of how things are progressing, I am going to keep a journal of sorts to list out things that I am finding that I can adapt to very quickly. If that in anyway helps some of my friends as they also make this transition, all the better.

There are certainly things that are different and I'm finding that it's OK, that it's different because life was never meant to remain the same. For me, right now in this first month of official retirement, it's all about perspective. I can bemoan those changes sometimes considered losses or...I can rejoice in the changes that I consider major gains.

The first of these gains is what I am considering to be the throwing out the rulebook about time. Having to go to bed by a certain time because you HAVE to get up by a certain time because you HAVE a major responsibility to others and yourself to show up and do your job. If you are someone that doesn't necessarily sleep on a regular schedule and the pressure of HAVING to do so only makes it worse, consider this a major gain. I think in time I will figure out what my "routine" will be, for instance I just started to cook at 9 pm on a Sunday night and it doesn't matter because...it just doesn't matter. If I am up until 3 am (as I often am) then so be it. Unless I have an appointment (which I don't have very many of these days), it just doesn't matter. So the rulebook for me about going to bed and getting up and doing it over and over again until I've reached the point that it took me 2 days to recover from doing that 5 days is a row - is now over and I will be making my own rules from this point out. It is an amazing feeling of freedom which reduces the stress in my life greatly, which in turn improves the quality of my life and so it all is a process...but a process that I will be defining and making fit this new period in my life.

Stay tuned!